How to write sympathy messages
Writing to someone who is grieving is hard, and that's okay. You don't need to find perfect words; you just need to show up. A short, sincere message like "I'm so sorry. I'm thinking of you" is enough. If you knew the person who died, a brief memory of them is one of the most comforting things you can share.
Avoid phrases that try to explain or fix the loss, like "everything happens for a reason". Instead, acknowledge the pain and offer support. Practical offers, like a meal, a ride or help with the kids, are often more helpful than words. Finally, check in again later. Grief lasts long after the cards stop arriving.